Bible Study or Sunday School Lesson 7

Free ItemThe Life Of A Disciple In The World
The Virtues & Fruits of the Spirit
Session 7: Patience, Kindness, Generosity

Core Teaching: God calls us to be Holy.

Session Goals: To help students realize that the Fruits of Patience, Kindness, and Generosity (Goodness), help us to exhibit Holiness of heart and of life.  That is what it means to be Christian- Be Christ-Like.

Supplies: Bibles, Sharpie Permanent Marker, 3 index cards for each person, Whiteboard/Newsprint, Markers, Masking Tape

Memory Verse: Psalm 108:3-4 NRSV

I will give thanks to you, O Lord, among the peoples, and I will sing praises to you among the nations. For your steadfast love is higher than the heavens, and your faithfulness reaches to the clouds.

(Write on the Board and encourage Youth to memorize this week.)


Micah 7:18-19 NRSV
Matthew 11:28-30 NRSV
Proverbs 22:1-6 NRSV
Leviticus 19:1-4 NRSV



Class Session

Opening Prayer- Student

Announcements, Attendance, and Offering- Teacher


Introduction to the Lesson- Teacher

How can we witness God to a world that is selfish?  How can we witness to Christ presence in our lives?  Does God care about us?  Does God care what we do?

God is in control.  God is at work in the world, in the universe, yet, God does not forget any one of us.

“Can a woman forget her nursing child, or show no compassion for the child of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. See, I have inscribed you on the palms of my hands; your walls are continually before me.” Isaiah 49:15-16 NRSV

I am going to pass around some Sharpie Markers.  On your left palm write “God Loves” and on your right palm put “your name”.  Get somebody to help you if you can’t write well with your left hand.

We are going to explore 3 more Fruits of the Spirit in this session.  All 3 of them are connected to each other.  They all lead us in one direction: Holiness of heart and life.  God wants us to be Holy?  How will we know when we are moving in that direction?  When we show Patience, Kindness, and Generosity (Goodness).



Small Group Discussions- Student Leaders


Key Questions (These should be answered during the discussion below)

  1. What is Patience?
  2. What is Kindness?
  3. What is Generosity (Goodness)?
  4. How is God Patient with each of us?
  5. How is Kindness witnessing to Christ’s presence?
  6. How is Goodness (Generosity) both prophetic and pastoral?
  7. What does it mean to be Holy?  To be Christian?


Big Issue

Let’s talk for a minute about Virtues and Fruits.

Who actually wants to have these things in their lives?  Who doesn’t?  Why?

Does anyone think we can live a “Good Life” without virtue?  Why or why not?  Does anyone thing we can be Disciples without showing some Fruits of the Spirit in our lives?  Why or why not?

We are about to study Patience, Kindness, and Generosity from a Biblical perspective.  When these Fruits are evident in our lives, then we are witnessing to the Power of God in the world.


Faith Link


God’s Patience– Read Micah 7:18-19 to the group.

  • What does this passage say about Patience?
  • Who is Patient with us?
  • Why is God Patient?

q  While we may be impatient people, God is a VERY Patient God.

q  To begin to understand Patience as a Fruit of the Spirit, we must first think about the Patience of God with us.  God suffers a-long with us; God puts up with our sinning (turning away from God); God stays with us through our apathy; God loves us even when we show no concern for our brothers and sisters; when we reject God’s love- God keeps offering us love.

q  Jesus reveals in his actions and person just how patient God is.

q  God is a shepherd who never gives up on lost sheep.

q  God is a Father who waits patiently for a prodigal son (or daughter) to return.

  • What kind of people do you lose Patience with?  Why?  How?
  • In what situations do you lose Patience?  Why?  How?
  • Who in your life is the MOST Patient with YOU?
  • How can you be more God-like in the previous situations?
  • Practice patience as a group by spending the next 3 minutes in complete silence thinking only about God.
  • What was that like?  Was it hard?  Did your mind wander?

Easy and Kind like Christ– Read Matthew 11:28-30 to the group.

  • Is this passage familiar to you?

q  Jesus is the one speaking in this passage.

q  The word in this passage that describes Jesus’ yoke as “easy” is the Greek word chrestos.  It is the same word from which kindness as a Fruit of the Spirit comes.

q  The yoke of Christ does not choke; it fits, easy.  This should suggest to us the type of relationship we should have with others.  We should make others way easy because Christ makes our way easy.

q  Christ shows kindness to us.  We show kindness to our brothers and sisters.  That is what it means to be Christ-like.

  • Have you ever thought about Kindness being an expression of Christ’s presence with us?  What do you think about it now?
  • How might this Kindness give others strength and power?
  • How does Christ’s Kindness give YOU strength and power?

q  Kindness is being yoked together in a fashion that makes the way of another easier.

q  Kindness is an action word.  It is an aggressive or assertive way of being with others just as Christ is with us.

  • You will each get 3 index cards.  On these cards write the name of the 3 Kindest people you know (one name per card).  Now write why they are kind and the way specifically they are kind to you.  Commit to writing each person a note thanking them for their Kindness to you in your life.  Thank them for demonstrating Christ’s presence. Make sure you send these notes soon.

Goodness: Prophetic and Pastoral- Read Proverbs 22:1-6 to the group.

  • What does this passage say about being Good?
  • Do you know somebody that could be described as “good for nothing”? What would make them Good for something?
  • Does the word “good” mean anything anymore in our culture?  Why? Or Why not?
  • Name some famous people that are known for being bad.  Now name some who are known for being Good.  Which list was easier to come up with?  Why?

q  In Scripture the word Good has a powerful meaning.

q  God creates and what God creates is called Good.  God creates humans and calls them Good. (Genesis 1)  A Good name is better than expensive oil/perfume. (Eccles. 7:1)

q  The Greek word for Goodness is agathosune, which is only a Biblical word, it is not used in secular Greek.  (Eph. 5:9 & 2 Thes. 1:11)

q  Scholars tell us that the Goodness Jesus expressed was both prophetic and pastoral.

q  Jesus expressed agathosune (goodness) in cleansing the temple and driving out the money changers.  His Goodness was expressed propethically, demanding change, requiring a response, bringing this Fruit of the Spirit to fruition.

q  Jesus expressed chrestotes (Kindness) to the sinning woman who crashed the party at Simon’s house and anointed Jesus’ feet.  In this he was pastoral.

  • Have you ever thought of Goodness as prophetic?
  • Have you ever thought of Goodness as demanding a response to a truth?  Have you seen Goodness call for change?
  • Jesus was able to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable with his Goodness.  If we are to be his disciples, we must do the same.
  • Who’s goodness have you been challenged by?
  • Who have you afflicted with your goodness?
  • Who’s Goodness has comforted you?
  • Who have you comforted out of the Goodness of your heart?
  • “We need the kind of life that has such integrity in relation to Christ that those around us who are comfortable in their apathy, unconcern, and insensitivity will be afflicted by our very presence, and those who are afflicted by the pains and problems of life will be comforted by that same presence.”  Maxie Dunnam





Life Application

Read Leviticus 19:1-4 out loud to everyone-

q   Your group should see by now that cultivating these Fruits, being Virtuous leads us to God and God calls us to be Holy.  To be Holy means to be God-Like.  Not to be God but to do the things God would do in all situations.

  • What does this passage say?
  • Why do you think Holiness is related to respecting parents, observing the Sabbath, and resisting idolatry in this passage?
  • How do Patience, Kindness, and Generosity (Goodness) in our live show us to be Holy?
  • As Christians we should be distinctive in the way we do business, the way we relate with other people, the way we treat the poor and the oppressed, the way we live together in families, the way we use our money, the priorities we set for our lives.
  • How distinctive is YOUR Christianity?
  • Do you want to be Holy?  Why? Or Why not?


Joys and Concerns- Teacher: Write these on a piece of butcher paper.


Closing Prayer- Students: Close with a prayer thanking God for all the Patient, Kind, and Generous friends we have and asking God to forgive us when we are not Holy.




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