Parents and Families

Parents Encouraging Girls

After several appointments with parents over the last few weeks concerning their daughters, I thought I’d share a collection of advice about young women. I am not a counselor but try to offer direction to parents of girls through a developmental and sociological lens. 1) Parents discuss with your daughter that there has always been pressure for women to have ...

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3 Questions (part 2)

In the past two weeks we passed along a program idea called “3 Questions,” promoting an evening of unscripted family discussion. If you missed it on our Facebook page or in our email, you can check out the details out here: 3 Questions : Parent & Teen Program February 1, 2011 As a follow up to that article, I promised to ...

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Graciously Receiving “No” from Volunteers

In a recent New York Times article, Frazzled Moms and Volunteerism, care for volunteers are raised. The landscape for families has changed dramatically since I have been in ministry. For over twelve years, I have seen families take on more and more. One family in a previous church was heavily involved in junior league hockey for their three boys. The ...

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3 Questions : Parent & Teen Program

Building A Philosophy Of Sustainable Youthwork

Last fall I was in bed for a month and a half with a back injury that eventually led to surgery. While I was down for the count, an idea for a new family program came to me. It’s entirely possible that it was a painkiller-induced vision, but when we tried it the first time two weeks ago it went ...

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“Oh, you think YOU’VE got problems?”

You Think You Have Problems

Not long ago I heard someone speaking to a group of at-risk youth. The speaker had herself grown up in a residential care setting, but had since graduated from college and was now getting ready to launch into the mission field. As an introduction, the speaker shared how, upon going off to a large state university, she had encountered many ...

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Parenting is Hard Work: Inside & Out

I have been in conversation with several parents of adolescents regarding our current economic environment and their home life. The economy is one of a myriad of stressors in families with adolescents. Mid-points in careers, changing physiology, care for older parents, and slowing metabolism coupled with decreased endorphin levels are internal and external causes of perceptions of “quality of life” ...

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Coping with Grief During the Holidays

God’s love never ends. This is a promise that God reminds us throughout the Scriptures. Sometimes we feel distant from these promises from God. The holidays can be one of these distancing times. Christmas celebrations and other holiday traditions are often joyous as we come together with our families and friends. For those who have experienced loss in the last ...

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Parents Are Youthworkers 24/7

Last week, I introduced the idea of C.A.R.E. Parents are most successful when they show Competence, Assurance, Reconciliation and Empathy. After a few emails this week concerning specific issues with youth parents, I thought I’d spend a few lines describing my approach to parenting. 1)    There is no normal. Family forms and constellations are more varied than ever before. What ...

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Parent’s Corner: Parents are Youthworkers! C.A.R.E

Parents are the youthworker’s greatest ally. There is a mythology out there that “youth ministry would be much easier without their parents.” It is time to dispel this myth. Yes, parents can be frustrating but they are our colleagues: they are in youth ministry every minute of every day. Thus, this friendly word will help us to understand parents of ...

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